Are you caring them away?

That’s not a typo. I do mean ‘caring’ and not ‘scaring’, even though they can occasionally be interchangeable.

So what the heck do I mean? Ask a female.

Why? Because they are often the recipients of guys who give so much attention, and ‘care’ too much, that it drives them away.

‘Where do you want to go?’ ‘What do you want to eat?’ ‘Can I do anything for you?’ ‘I’d like to spent time (a lot of it – maybe every hour) with you.’ Etc, etc. Annoying.

This can, of course, go the other way. The woman can also get too overbearing, and over-caring, and drive a guy away too, but I usually find that it’s men that often just try too hard for women. They are too afraid to lose the little ‘nibble’ they got when they met a female, and they hold on to it so tightly they kill it.

This can also be generalized to almost everything in your life. I like to say that the person who wants something least is the one who ends up with the best deal. Caring too much, and trying too hard will only move you further away from what you want.

The person who is desperate to sell their home will sell it far too cheap. The person who wants so badly to do a business deal, will drive the potential buyer away. And of course, that guy who wants the girl so badly that he's calling every minute, and showering her with gifts every chance he gets, will eventually lose her every time.

You can come up with your own examples, but I think you’ll find you won’t have to search your brain too deep.

Any time you are faced with a decision that you need to make so badly, and 'immediately', take twenty-four hours to think about it. After you distance yourself from the decision with time, you will probably never even want that thing any more. And if you do, you'll have a much clearer perspective on what it really means to you.

When faced with more daunting, or more important decisions, take a little longer than that to think about it. Never give in to your own ‘overbearing caring’ about something, especially if you want someone to do something for you. You just might care/scare them away.

Remember, there will always be another chance to find that special something. When I’m faced with an ‘important’ decision, I like to occasionally remind myself that once-in-a-lifetime deals come around about every month or so.